No Blame……..No Shame
Each time we drop a belief in consciousness that is weighty we not only gain in freedom but also joy for life.
The emotional response of Blame has been conditioned into the physical human response system……in other words its on automatic.
On automatic we search for a point where we can place the reason, judgement and possible punishment for the wrong we feel and are experiencing either directly or indirectly.
Blame wants justice, punishment, retribution (how do I know all this, just pay attention to your feelings they will show you the emotional content of your feelings, attitude and belief) ………. it isn’t that blame is wrong its that it leads us to responses that create more problems than what is solved and continually repeats the past.
Blame in the extreme creates war and justifies it. Blame holds anger, resentment and distances us from those we feel injured by and has little need or want of forgiveness.
Blame also drains our life energy causing us to waste enormous amounts of time and energy on “getting back at the bastards and not solving any problems” forgiveness means letting go, it does not mean you condone the action of the other person or group.
Most religions are the major programmer of guilt which leads to blame and then on to actions that carry out the feelings of shame, anger, retribution and so on. Blame is a response of we as human trying to rid our self of the feeling of our own anguish, hurt, pain, guilt and other feelings that inhibit our joy for life. But most often we end up in a circle continually coming back to the point of blame as so it goes and endless loop tape in the head like a chatter box continually repeating over and over again.
If you follow the simplicity of your own feelings they will lead you to this circular process…………the circle of repetition can be broken…….breaking the circle of chatter will not only relieve you of the circle of blame and desire for RETribution you will also increase your life energy and desire for life.
Intellect can be a valuable tool in breaking the circuit of blame…….Note the feelings and what they make you want to do, feel and act……….lets say it was a parent who shamed or brutalized you either physically mentally or both……….recall the feelings, write them down and also how they make you want to Act. Using your creative imagination take the action ( remember imagination is NOT the objective world, its imagination) even better is to act it out in drama………..I use to go into the woods pick up a stick and imaginatively beat the shit out of the culprits who caused my feeling of anger, blame, shame and guilt. Also during the periods of doing this I began to recognize that my grandparents were doing and action out their own programming acting UNconscious like I had often done in my own life, recognition is a powerful tool for reconciling circular hooks in our emotional mind body system.
Body work, massage, rolfing, yoga, ti-chi and movement are also a way to break up the conditional emotional responses that have taken over the mind body responses.
It is your life by taking Responsibility (the ability to respond) you can not only heal the conflicts within your mind body system but you will also gain in joy, life interest, mental and emotional acuity and insight.